A Letter To My Freshman Self (And Your Freshman Self)
*The following letter was heavily inspired by late night crying to the Jonas Brothers
Dear Freshman Me,
I know you have lived in New Jersey your whole life, but college is something entirely different from what you’re used to. Get swept up in the hassle of figuring out your class schedule, meeting roommates, college parties, and whatever else is thrown your way. Even if you think you’re “too cool for school”, we both know you are terrified. Embrace it!
I think it needs to be said that you do not, by any means, need to “reinvent yourself”. Sure, some new clothes may be in order (and fixing those DIY bangs you gave yourself over the summer should be your top priority), however you do not need to give up yourself in order to be accepted by other people. Being comfortable with who you are at this moment means accepting who you once were. Even if “high school you” did not know how to properly tweeze her eyebrows, she had a plethora of other amazing qualities. Remind yourself what you are best at because those attributes will take you far in college. And in life.
It’s okay to not like your freshman roommate. You are definitely not alone on that front. Remember that they too are going through a lot as it is also their first year of college. Be civil and respectful with them and find your new BFF somewhere else. Your school is huge! There are so many people out there you can and will relate to.
That being said, there are going to be a lot of times in college when you are by yourself. Eating by yourself, taking the bus by yourself, sitting in a classroom where you know absolutely no one, etc. This is okay! One of the greatest things I learned in college was how to enjoy spending time with my thoughts. You have no obligation to latch on to the first person you find. Take your time and choose the people you spend your time with wisely. Doing this is an act of self-care and love.
And finally, my dear 18-year-old baby, the number one piece of advice I could ever give you is to TRY NEW THINGS. Try things you normally would never dream of doing. Take an intro class for a major you have never considered an option before. Join one of the hundreds of clubs that your school has to offer! The opportunities that will open for you and the people you will meet are innumerable. You have no idea at this point in your life what you are capable of. Give yourself the freedom to exceed yours and everyone else’s expectations!
P.S. It’s every person for themselves on a crowded bus. You can shove people out of your way if you have to because that last spot on the bus is YOURS and you deserve it.